The Wedding Ceremony - Part 2

Second Marriages

Some people feel that if it is not their first marriage, they must have a small, subdued wedding. This is not true. You should celebrate your new life together just as first-timers would, especially if one of you has never been married before. If the bride has been married before, she may want to consider wearing off-white and no veil. As far as gifts are concerned, most people who are re-marrying are more established than first-timers, and you could consider putting a "No gifts, please" clause in the invitation. If it's the first time for either of you, however, or if you would appreciate some help starting your new life together, gifts are appropriate.

If you are having a religious ceremony for a second marriage, consult with the officiant to make sure you fulfill any special requirements.

Alternatives

Double wedding
If your relative or good friend is planning on marrying around the same time you are, a double ceremony can be fun. It can also be double the headaches. Don't jump into a double wedding lightly. If it seems like too much trouble, it probably is.

Candlelight ceremony
The entire site is lit by candles, creating a beautiful atmosphere. Sometimes each guest is given a candle and the couple start the ceremony by walking down the aisle together and stopping at each row to light the candle of the person seated on the aisle, who then lights the next person's candle, and so on, until every guest's candle is lit. This creates a wonderful sense of unity in the hall.

Many couples will write their own vows, thus ensuring that there is a space in the ceremony for their feelings for their partner. You can write your own vows and still retain the traditional readings and rituals of your faith in the ceremony.

People will sometimes have special guests of honor stand at the altar during the ceremony. Another thing you can do is present the two mothers with roses. Some couples arrange the altar so that they will be facing the guests during the ceremony.